How to Stop Letting Achievement Define Your Worth (For Enneagram 3s & High Performers)
Amber Deibert
December 8, 2025
If you’ve ever taken the Enneagram and discovered you’re a Type 3 (The Achiever) or if you simply act like one, this episode will feel like someone finally put words to your inner world.
Achievers push themselves relentlessly.
They hit goal after goal.
They look wildly successful from the outside…
…while quietly feeling like they’re only as good as their last accomplishment.
In this episode, I break down what drives Enneagram 3s, why achievement becomes tied to self-worth, and how to break out of the “always chasing, never satisfied” cycle without losing your ambition.
You’ll walk away with practical tools to feel more grounded, worthy, and whole, without losing the part of you that loves to grow.
🎯 In this episode we riff on:
↠ What it actually means to be an Enneagram 3
↠ Why Achievers tie their value to success (and where that starts)
↠ Childhood moments that wire achievement into our identity
↠ The endless pressure to measure worth by quotas, results, and milestones
↠ The trap of never remembering your wins
↠ The gap vs. the gain (and why it matters so much for 3s)
↠ Why personal development can become a weapon against yourself
↠ The power of feeling emotions instead of “fixing” yourself
↠ How growth can still be fun, without defining your worth
↠ What changes when you believe you’re already whole
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